Contrary to the belief that those that give you money, when you ask for it, are the ones that actually love you; those that don’t are your real lovers. These are the reasons why.
1. The free money will kill your initiative of making money. When you are given something free, you will not do the hardworking of thinking to get it on your own, just because somebody is there for you. It is normal not to look for an alternative way of doing a particular task if there is a way of doing it. If you are asking for free money and you are getting it always, it will kill your initiative concerning money making. Your real lovers are those that desist from giving you money any time you ask for it or they tell you that after this one, don’t come for another.
2. Free money is aimlessly spent. People don’t place much value on anything they get without much sweat and this leads to reckless use or spending of such. Hence, when you are given money when you place a demand from someone, such money is liable to reckless and aimless spending. Therefore, if some people desist from helping you sometimes, never take them as your enemies, this may be bitter, they are your destiny helpers activating you to prestigious thinking of money making.
3. The so called “nice man” is turning you to a professional beggar. Most times, we tag people that always give us money nice men. Fine, they are nice, but this is not helping us. There is tendency for a return match of such good gesture. If you sit down and think over it, you will realize that it is turning you to a professional beggar. If you are turned down, it may hurt you, but it will lift you.
4. You will be turned to a “fake” man. The real men work hard to earn money. Hard-earned money is sweeter than free money. If you make money by working hard for it, it is a kind of an exercise and training to be eligible to earn more. Hence, if a friend turns you down sometimes, he/she is directing you to go for a better option of making money.
5. You will lose the rewards of being a giver in your lifetime. You become what you do always. If you always look for free money, you become a beggar. If you always look for ways of giving to humanity, you become a giver. Meanwhile, it is more rewardable to be a giver rather than a beggar. There are rewards attached when you give. When you give, you haven’t lost money, you have only sown; and every sower will always reap in many folds.
In essence, I’m not saying we should not ask for help when we need one but the best bet is to be in position to help others.