Dear young lady,
How are you? How is this weather treating you? Is it cold or hot out there? But I hope you are not feeling heat from within? Yes, I know! I know that you are nubile, that you are of a marriageable age, and you are ready for marriage. It looks as if no suitor is showing forth. You don’t need to file a suit against all men for this. It’s a common challenge. A common one to both young men and women!
Young lady, relax! Your husband is looking for you. You are a favour, you are a good thing, and you are prudent. Who would not like a good thing? Who would not like to be favoured? Who would not like a prudent wife? The reason it looks as if no suitor is showing forth is that you are not meant for just anybody. There is a particular and a special man for you, and do you know what? He’s already searching for you. How do I know this? I was opportune to lay my hand on a letter written by a man of God to a young man, who is in the same shoe with you. It reads:
Dear young man,
There is no doubt that a prudent wife is from the Lord – Proverbs19:14. It was God that saw the need for Adam to have a helper (Genesis 2:18), He made one and brought her unto the man (Genesis 2:21 – 22). Till date, God still makes and chooses wives for people, but you have to be spiritually inclined to recognize His choice for you, when you see her. Adam was highly spiritual, and could recognize his wife when he saw her. And note this that the recognition was not based on the physical endowment only.
On the other hand the sons of God in Noah’s time, out of flesh, chose the daughters of men as wives based on their beauty only, and the result was premature death (reduction in life span – Genesis 6: 1 – 3). The carnally minded can never please God. The basis for innumerable challenges in some marriages is choosing life partners based on man’s wisdom only. Any time a man chooses his wife based on his wisdom alone, problems are inevitable in his marriage.
There is a ready-made and chosen helper for you somewhere, but God would never bring her to you directly; He has made her before you were even conceived (Jeremiah 1:5 – He knew you and the wife you will marry). But, you have to play your own part – YOU HAVE TO SEARCH AND FIND; the reason is that Adam cast the blame upon God for their mistake – Genesis 3:12, “And the man said, the woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.” There is a chosen wife for you whom you have to search for, and recognize when you have found her.
He made and brought to Adam then; but now He made, you find.
House and riches are the inheritance from fathers: and a prudent wife is from the Lord (Proverbs 19:14). Whosoever finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favour of the Lord (Proverbs 18:22). From these two verses, young man, there are steps you need to take to find your wife:
Step 1: Pray for favour,
Step 2: And God’s guidance,
Step 3: Then search until you find,
Step 4: When you find her, SPEAK – TELL HER.
There are many devises (plans) in a man’s heart; nevertheless, the counsel of the Lord shall stand (Proverbs 19:21).
Continue to rejoice in the Lord.
My dear young lady, what can you sense from that letter? You have been giving yourself an unnecessary headache by carrying another person’s burden (well, the burden of your partner-to-be). Your own part is to get prepared, ready, and make yourself available and accessible. He is already searching for you here and there. Another thing you can also do to expedite his action is prayer.
Be tenacious in “watching and praying”. There are always both physical and spiritual requirements to get anything done in life.
Continue to radiate in His beauty and glory. I look forward to hearing good news from you by receiving your simply-, but well-designed Invitation Card.
© 2017 Peter F. Adewumi